You know how you know it's wrong? Because they never said it to your face.
Madness string 99409
That didn't happen. And if it did, it wasn't that bad. And if it was, that's not a big deal. And if it is, that's not my fault. And if it was, I didn't mean it. And if I did, you deserved it.
Usually there are sensible voices in the room, but they are not always listened to.