The one consistent thing about all the 'it's not a big deal' types is that it's a pretty big fucking deal to them.
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My dad died seven years ago and I make sooooo many dead dad jokes. It makes other people uncomfortable, which makes me even more amused. I think it's part because it's either laugh or cry and also if someone is staring at you in horror because of what you said, they aren't going to give you their pity. You get tired of being pitied after a while.