So many weird old religious rules started out as trying to keep unenlightened but highly religious groups alive, fed, and disease-free, and somehow we've hung onto so much of it. For another example, check out the origin of sacred cows.
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I think what you're describing is 'Minnesota nice'. It's more than just wholesome. It's no-nonsense politeness, a sense of humor and humility all mixed in one.