The avoidance of suffering is a form of suffering. The avoidance of struggle is a struggle. The denial of failure is a failure. Hiding what is shameful is itself a form of shame.
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It's a process. If you've ever gone from one place to another, you may find the majority of the trip that you're not quite where you left and you're not quite where you're going. That is, of course, until you get there.