I have a theory for everything. I even have a theory for why I have a theory for everything.
When someone is insecure, it is generally because they lacked security as a child.
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If a 17-year-old doesn't know all the available resources - heck if any struggling parent isn't aware of all the available resources - that doesn't make them an asshole, it means they need support. For fuck's sake guys, that's what adult parents are for. To help guide and advise their teenage children.