You don't grab power, you accumulate it. Quietly, without anyone noticing.
Madness string 27798
It would be nice to avoid confrontation, but after a point you realise there is no non-confrontational way to ask someone to stop hurting you. And while you already know it's not going to achieve anything, maybe it's still worth doing just for your own sake; if you, at least, can acknowledge that yes, they really are hurting you, that may still be worth something?