When you want to help people, you tell them the truth. When you want to help yourself, you tell them what they want to hear.
Madness string 24331
If you ever want to make yourself feel bad, just think back on something that had turned out to have been staring you in the face all along, and everything you did wrong while you'd failed to see it. Not really a productive use of your time, but we can't spend all our time being productive, now can we?