Look too hard and it fades away. Let it go and it forever disappears. But that is the nature of dream, never truly there, tantalising, taunting...
Madness string 160
It is everyone's responsibility to simultaneously be aware of how their behaviour will affect others and tolerant of the behaviour of others. Just because someone failed to consider the former does not give you permission to disregard the latter. If it's easy to make you stop being decent, you weren't really trying in the first place.