If anyone threw shade at my bubbie for patting my bum lovingly, as she did from birth until we lost her five years ago, I would make them so scared of the dark they would think twice before ever throwing shade again.
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Some people wrap their identities so tightly around the identity of parent that they don't know what to do when they must leave their kids behind for an evening. Telling them 'no kids' is like saying 'please leave your personality and identity at home'.