Children do not ask to be born. They are not indebted to you for 'bringing them into the world'. Parents are indebted to their children to provide for them, raise them, guide them and love them. If they can't do that, they shouldn't be parents.
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Assuming that PREtending is what came before - what exactly would be the meaning of 'tending'. And, dare I ask, what would POSTtending be?