I grew up in churches, and there are loads of hypocrites. But there are also the genuine ones. There has to be a genuine person there who can at least be a resource.
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Being the bigger person isn't done for the other person, its done for yourself - that's why its being the bigger person, because you're not worrying about someone else's opinion to the point that your behavior is controlled by it. Not that I always do it. Being petty and vindictive is awesome when they're being a total fuckhead.