You need to prep your surface. Sand it so smooth you want to rub your face all over it, and that's how you get a finish that goes down proper and gleams like a mirror to blind everyone who comes upon it after.
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Use 'I feel..."' statements. Basically start every sentence with 'I feel', for example: 'I feel disrespected when you yell at me.' The goal of this is that you cannot argue with how someone feels. If she still argues and tells you that you're wrong for feeling that way, then I'm afraid nothing will help you.