She's forcing misogynist and bigoted beliefs, which are damaging to society as a whole, onto her children. She is emotionally manipulative and refuses to engage in constructive dialogue with you. She's your mom and you love her, and that's okay. You will always love her. But you'll do well to examine her behaviors and separate your love for her from the belief that she's a good mom. Good moms want the best for their kids, and guide them and support them in becoming their best.