As someone who has been in various stages between, and including, being bedbound and housebound, I know how important independence is, and how it can feel degrading and humiliating to lose it.
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Pop Tarts: have you tried them frozen? You have? How about room temperature while standing over the garbage can? Done that as well? How about slightly warm in a damp alley surrounded by heroin needles, railing against an unforgiving God? No? Try that.