Real isn't how you are made. It's a thing that happens to you.
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There are reasons for everything. Some are terrible. Some are avoided. For some, it is easier to explain the processes or the commonplace, but these are not reasons, but explanations. The reasons lie behind them.
Before you diagnose yourself with depression or low self-esteem, first make sure that you are not, in fact, just surrounded by assholes.