Your job is to mourn your friend. He is gone and there is a hole in your life where he used to be and that's got to hurt like hell.
Use 'I feel..."' statements. Basically start every sentence with 'I feel', for example: 'I feel disrespected when you yell at me.' The goal of this is that you cannot argue with how someone feels. If she still argues and tells you that you're wrong for feeling that way, then I'm afraid nothing will help you.