The most important thing to deal with is whatever is most on your mind. The fact that you think it shouldn't be on your mind is irrelevant. It's there, and it's there for a reason.
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Memory is like a path through a jungle: the more you tread it, the more defined it becomes and the more likely you are to tread that path again. Each time you go over the path, it changes. You add things to it to make the trip more comfortable and don't realize what you've done because you walk it so often. If you realize this at all, it's too late, the original is forever lost.