Standards are ultimately the modern form of fascism, where authoritarian people insist on subjugating everyone to a single set of rules.
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First step: renaming 'guilt' to 'regret'. It's a regrettable situation, but guilt belongs in jail. You did nothing that warrants jail. You were in a regrettable situation that was not your fault. Gentle hug from me. I too still grieve the mom I should have had.