Who cares about facts? The only important thing is that what you're saying is offensive and can't be said. Something being true in no ways justifies you being able to say it.
Madness string 19998
I think we sometimes have very specific conceptions of what it means to be 'traumatized'. We picture like, someone curled up on the bed and sobbing. And that is a common reaction to trauma. But sometimes people more shrug and feel a little weird about what happened. And that doesn't make what happened any better. The action is still wrong no matter the reaction.