In my opinion, the whole 'you have to forgive the people who did you wrong to be able to move on' idea is bullshit and harmful to victims. You do, however, have to forgive yourself for not being able to stop the bad thing from happening.
The charges are laid, the fuse is lit, the conversational excavation under way.
Madness string 112781
You cannot just shove twenty needles in my brain and ask me what I see!