It might be true, but that's no way to treat a person you love or care about. You are your phases. The present is the only time that really matters. If you aren't going to accept who they are now, you don't accept them.
In my lab, there were two criteria we always strived toward: that the discovery is fundamentally true, which means proving it in many different ways, and that it's new. Everyone talks about your truth, and my truth. Physically, chemically, there's only one truth.