Children do not ask to be born. They are not indebted to you for 'bringing them into the world'. Parents are indebted to their children to provide for them, raise them, guide them and love them. If they can't do that, they shouldn't be parents.
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Both leave the same scar, during the development stage until adulthood we inherently believe that anything happens to us happens because of us, and we must not be good enough to be loved. This is regardless of the reasoning, and this trauma remains ingrained in our subconscious, following us throughout our life until we become aware of it and get in touch with our inner-child's needs that weren't met by our biological family.